When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep.

When his wings enfold you yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. 

~Kahlil Gibran on Love

We search. We hope. We pray.  We believe.

We look to find someone “else” who will “really” love us.

Someone who will make us happy.

  Someone who will like to do the things that we like to do.

Someone who will support us.

Someone who will listen to us.

  Someone who will go through life with us.

We look.

We go here.  We go there.

We are looking for that special someone to love us.

Eventually we think that we are going to find that  person and it’s going to be the right fit.

It’s going to FEEL right.

It’s going to BE right.

It’s going to BE for life.

It’s going to BE the real thing.

We are finally going to find and BE in love.


So, let’s say that you do find love.  It works out.  You live together happily for 20 years.  Then that person dies.

Where are you?  Where are you now?

You are left with wonderful memories of your time with them.

You’re probably hurt that they are gone.  You miss them.  You’re glad that you had a chance to get to know them.  To love them.  To be loved by them. To share your life with them.  But they’re now gone.

 So, where are you?  You are alone, again.  You are with yourself, again. You are back where you started right before you first came into this world. You are where you will be when you leave this world.

You Must Love Yourself First


There is just no real way to ignore the fact that the first lesson in learning to love is to love yourself.

Get to know yourself.

  Be in love with you, with who you are, what you’re about.

  Someone will then always love you.

You will love you.

 There is no need to suffer or settle when it comes to love or looking for love.

  Once you discover the greatest love of all, and realize that it’s not just YOU that you are, but it’s greater than you, then everything starts to make sense — EVERYTHING.

Loving Yourself IS Loving God.

Loving Yourself IS Loving Your Neighbor.

 There’s no separation.  There is no isolation.  In the end there is only Love.

What if there were a love that was so grand and great that you could not escape from it?  There is – loving yourself and not listening to those voices in your head that tell you that you are un-loveable.

If you do find someone who shares this special understanding then let the awesome  journey begin, but it won’t be a struggle.  It will be natural and you will know they are the one.  There is an inner wisdom that will let you know.  The relationship will be founded and grounded  in Love, in the awesome process of Loving and being Beloved and Supported.

Let Go of The Need to Look Outside of Yourself for Love, Happiness and Fulfillment.  You will then open a space where those who can’t really love you (because they don’t love themselves) will fall away.  Somehow the universe will remove them without much effort on your part.  Don’t be afraid of being without them. Don’t worry,  your beloved is already here, your beloved loves themselves and therefore can love you with an intense, dynamic and unselfish love. 

You Must First Look Within 

That Is Where You Must Start In Order to Understand Love.

~Ridea Richardson