Fear is a prison

Fear is not real. Fear is how you “feel” and feelings are not Facts.   Feelings come and go.

Letting go and moving on is hard.  It is difficult.  It is painful. I don’t care if you KNOW you need to let go of your dead-end job, your toxic relationship or your addictions and unhealthy behaviors…IT DOESN’T JUST HAPPEN. It is a process, and it can be a very difficult process.

At some point you have to take full responsibility for your life and your decisions.   Forget about the story that you are telling yourself in your head about how you got to where you are today.  Stop beating yourself up.  You are where you are.  That is a fact. Just start from where you are right now — even if it is a crazy bad place and ask yourself:

1. What do I want?

2. What do I deserve? (Not what you “feel” you deserve – that will just take you down another rabbit hole.)

3. What is the worst thing that could happen if I let go/if I move on?

You can stay stuck or you can move on.

Moving on is not going to be what you have today, but you don’t know what it will actually be.  That is the dilemma of letting go.   I read somewhere to always and only visualize the end result, not the process. Visualizing the process can drive you crazy because there are so many pieces that need to fit into place. You can’t control all of that.  You have to just take for granted that:

even though you don’t know the plan…the plan is good…

Just figure out what you want and visualize the picture of the end result  and let the universe get you there.  You will know as you start this travel to your destination if the sign post along the way are getting you to your end result.  You may have to make course corrections along the way, but you have to know where you want to go.

Now, expect and wait for, the VOICES IN YOUR HEAD to start their job.

You know the voices I’m talking about.  The ones that say:

1.  This will never work out.

2. I’ve tried this 100 times what makes me think this time will be different?

3. This is too hard.  Why is life so hard?

…and on the voices will go…just listen to them, but know that they are just the gatekeepers.  EVERYBODY has those same small voices in their head, but it’s only those people who get beyond the gatekeepers that actually realize their true potential.  KNOCK THOSE GATES DOWN.  It starts with the gatekeeper called FEAR…fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the future…

Fear is a prison of the mind.

“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”  ~ M. Scott Peck